I've had some friends give me some good advice about dealing with the various stresses and whatnot in my life at the moment.
One recurring theme was to spend more time with people, like, not just my kids and my honey but OTHER people.
in the last week:
I've gone out for sushi with one of my pals. We went out to a place with little plates flying around on a belt. It was entertainment, food, and great company.
I had a friend come over at 9 PM (till about 1 AM) to eat brownies, drink wine and chitchat.
I've gone over to a friend's house for lunch and laughed with her till my cheeks ached.
The Things and I met a pal and her kids in town, between our respective errands to have cookies and a drink at a local cafe, which was fabulous.
My sushi friend came by for snacks and cocoa Friday night to counter-balance all the testosterone in the house from Thing One's friends (the party went well, and was fun for all).
Then on Sunday Mr. Logo and I stopped by our friends' house to drop of some things and ended up staying to visit for a while.
There are times when going and doing, being a social butterfly, feels like an energy drainer but right now, all those things really seemed to be charging my batteries.
My friends are awesome.
They listen, and they try to help,
and when they know there is nothing they can do to make it all better,
they give me hugs and send cards.
In Eat, Pray, Love Elizabeth Gilbert shares a convo with her sister. They were discussing her sister's neighbor who had been struck with multiple reality-shattering tragedies.
E. Gilbert said, "That family needs grace."
Her sister said, "That family needs casseroles!"
The author goes on to say that she wasn't sure if her sister realized that the year of dinners she arranged for her neighbors were in point of fact, grace.
According to dictionary.net grace is:
1. The exercise of love, kindness, mercy, favor; disposition to benefit or serve another; favor bestowed or privilege conferred.
I am surrounded by gracious people, most of whom don't look or act anything like the stereotypical preconception that the word gracious conjures up, and they might even object to the characterization, but they inspire me to cultivate that trait in myself.
I may never grow up but I do aspire to some of the better traits of maturity.